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Mx. Luna CorbdenHere's a little executive function tip based on my Splines Theory.If you're having trouble starting a complicated and boring task, give yourself time to "load the splines." Splines are just my silly word representing the fact that ADHD and autistic people are more detail-oriented. We have a hard time accessing an idea by its summary, and need to think about the whole system with all its parts (splines) in order to grapple it. This takes time and energy.But the good news is, reticulating splines is mostly a passive activity. First step, the hardest, is communicating to your brain about what it needs to load. A few hours ago when I started gathering paperwork for taxes, I felt incredibly overwhelmed and my chronic pain was activated. So I pushed myself to kinda get started (updating my list from last year, opening the email folder, creating some folders on my computer), but then I hit a wall. Under intense overwhelm, I couldn't get started turning those emails into PDFs.But my brain knows what it needs to do. It just needed time. I entered my passive splines reticulating phase, which can take anywhere from a few hours to a few days. Since I only have a week to get this to my CPA, the sooner I started the loading process, the better. Most of that happens in the background. The hardest part was telling my brain to start, which I did by giving a glance to the body of details I will need to absorb.Then I went did a couple of hours of paid writing work which my brain normally expects on a Monday (so that went easier). And then back to taxes to see if things were flowing better.And they are! I still hate it! But now my mind has an understanding of the task and it doesn't seem impossible.I will work on it until I feel sick and foggy again, then I will pick up tomorrow where I expect it to go even more smoothly.Here's my 2013 post on Splines Theory of neurodiverse executive function.<a href="https://defcon.social/tags/taxes" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#taxes</a> <a href="https://defcon.social/tags/ADHD" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#ADHD</a> <a href="https://defcon.social/tags/ActuallyAutistic" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#ActuallyAutistic</a> <a href="https://defcon.social/tags/pacing" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#pacing</a> <a href="https://defcon.social/tags/MECFS" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#MECFS</a><a href="https://www.corbden.com/2013/10/splines-theory-spoons-metaphor-for.html" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" translate="no" target="_blank">https://www.corbden.com/2013/10/splines-theory-spoons-metaphor-for.html</a>

Mx. Luna CorbdenTaxes are like a signal jammer on my brain.Abuse Culture project is on hold, mid-transfer of notes from Mastodon, which is just insane that I decided to start that when my accountant needs my tax paperwork in like a week. Trying hard to put a pin in that in such a way I'll find my place again.(I've decided not to tax strike because, well, Idaho is holding my health insurance hostage. I can't even file an extension under threat of unaffordable medical care. Drat and I was all ready to go back to my Taxes Are Theft libertarian roots!)Head is full of static now and I barely even got started gathering receipts. There's no noise here baby, it's all signal. But it's 15 HAM operators, two industrial and dubstep stations, and the NOAA weather report all talking on the same channel.Anyhow, clocking into paid writing work now where I don't even know what what<a href="https://defcon.social/tags/ActuallyAutistic" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#ActuallyAutistic</a> <a href="https://defcon.social/tags/ADHD" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#ADHD</a> <a href="https://defcon.social/tags/taxes" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#taxes</a>

Adrianna TanOne of the upsides (there are very few) of growing up <a href="https://hachyderm.io/tags/ActuallyAutistic" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#ActuallyAutistic</a> where I did (Singapore) is that it was legitimately just impossible for me to understand social pressure or ways in which I had to fit in. I never once had a ‘I should do X because my parents / teachers / society’ thinks I should moment. People from back home often say ‘oh you have such a clear vision for what you want to be’ and I’m partly also like.. ‘I didn’t have a choice? Also you all made me feel like shit for it?’ I have always had a clear-eyed vision for the life I want to lead and the ways in which I will not bend to fit in. Simply because I know there’s no fitting in anyway, all paths there lead to rejection, so why try.

Adrianna TanAs an <a href="https://hachyderm.io/tags/ActuallyAutistic" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#ActuallyAutistic</a> person with certain skills, I can do some really complicated things but things like how to buy pants that fit me really flummox me

Simon BrookeI've just watched Temple Grandin with a close <a href="https://mastodon.scot/tags/ActuallyAutistic" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#ActuallyAutistic</a> friend. It moved us both to tears and brought back memories I'd repressed; but for us both it was an utterly wonderful film.Any other recommendations of movies for autistic folk?<a href="https://www.imdb.com/title/tt1278469/?ref_=nv_sr_srsg_0_tt_7_nm_1_in_0_q_temple%2520grandin" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" translate="no" target="_blank">https://www.imdb.com/title/tt1278469/?ref_=nv_sr_srsg_0_tt_7_nm_1_in_0_q_temple%2520grandin</a>

Mx. Alba :tranarchy_punk_transgender:As an <a href="https://blahaj.zone/tags/ActuallyAutistic" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#ActuallyAutistic</a> person I'm feeling a bit overwhelmed with all the changes going on... In the past few weeks I've... - Deleted my Facebook account and switched to the Fediverse as my main social media presence. - Moved from Mastodon to Sharkey within the Fediverse. - Been asked to manage the Pixelfed account of an event I volunteer at and have started doing that. - Been asked to take over as admin of the private Mastodon instance of another organisation I volunteer for. - Moved my primary email service from GMail to Proton Mail. - Ditched Firefox in favour of Vivaldi. - Ditched DuckDuckGo in favour of Qwant. - Ditched WhatsApp while most groups I was in moved to Signal or Discord. - Started a new TTRPG campaign using Pathfinder 2e instead of D&D 5e. - And to top it all off, in a few days I'll be trading in my Tesla for a Volvo. I really feel like I'm gonna need a while to process this all and find my bearings again - the question is, will the world let me? Everything seems to be in flux nowadays... I just want things to calm down for a bit so I can mentally catch up, you understand?

JB 🐎 :neuro:Article about how high ambient noise levels, and the noise types, impact human health.I found this very reassuring to hear that it’s not just those of us who are hypersensitive to sound (like many <a href="https://beige.party/tags/ActuallyAutistic" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#ActuallyAutistic</a> people) who are impacted by high noise levels around us. Hoping (but not getting hopes too high!) this might lead to quieter places one day for all of us. 💚<a href="https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/crmjdm2m4yjo" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" translate="no" target="_blank">https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/crmjdm2m4yjo</a>

David Gray-HammondNew Article! New UK Government Education Hub Now Overtly Discriminates Against Neurodivergent Children <a href="https://emergentdivergence.com/2025/03/16/new-uk-government-education-hub-now-overtly-discriminates-against-neurodivergent-children/" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" translate="no" target="_blank">https://emergentdivergence.com/2025/03/16/new-uk-government-education-hub-now-overtly-discriminates-against-neurodivergent-children/</a><a href="https://disabled.social/tags/ActuallyAutistic" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#ActuallyAutistic</a> <a href="https://disabled.social/tags/Autism" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#Autism</a> <a href="https://disabled.social/tags/Autistic" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#Autistic</a> <a href="https://disabled.social/tags/ADHD" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#ADHD</a> <a href="https://disabled.social/tags/AuDHD" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#AuDHD</a> <a href="https://disabled.social/tags/EHCP" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#EHCP</a> <a href="https://disabled.social/tags/EHCPsupport" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#EHCPsupport</a> <a href="https://disabled.social/tags/SEN" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#SEN</a> <a href="https://disabled.social/tags/SENreform" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#SENreform</a> <a href="https://disabled.social/tags/SEND" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#SEND</a> <a href="https://disabled.social/tags/SpecialEducationalNeeds" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#SpecialEducationalNeeds</a> <a href="https://disabled.social/tags/neurodiversity" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#neurodiversity</a> <a href="https://disabled.social/tags/neurodivergent" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#neurodivergent</a> <a href="https://a.gup.pe/u/neurodiversity" class="u-url mention" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">@neurodiversity</a> <a href="https://a.gup.pe/u/actuallyautistic" class="u-url mention" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">@actuallyautistic</a> @autisticadvocacy.a.gup.pe <a href="https://a.gup.pe/u/adhd" class="u-url mention" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">@adhd</a> <a href="https://newsmast.community/@mentalhealth" class="u-url mention" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">@mentalhealth@newsmast.community</a> <a href="https://a.gup.pe/u/mentalhealth" class="u-url mention" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">@mentalhealth@a.gup.pe</a>

SeaFury 🦜🍉In the second episode the waiter is taking a day off to go to the police precinct. The cook is asked to take an order off a customer in the dining room. He says "I'm not good interfacing with people" the boss corrects him, " You mean you're not good with white people" This made me thinking, maybe this is me... but nah, I am the same with Chinese people too <a href="https://aus.social/tags/actuallyAutistic" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#actuallyAutistic</a> <a href="https://aus.social/tags/Chinese" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#Chinese</a>

Kevin Davy<a href="https://a.gup.pe/u/actuallyautistic" class="u-url mention" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">@actuallyautistic</a> Much of the difficulty in realising and accepting that we are autistic much later in life comes, in part, from the fact that we have been exposed to so many ableist stereotypes of it through our lifetime. The rest from the reality that much of the information we may have, is either outdated, or such that we struggle to see ourselves in it. It means that we have to spend a considerable amount of effort both in digging out and dealing with our internalised ableism, a somewhat ongoing process for many of us, and also educating ourselves on the reality of what autism is. Such education quickly reveals that what it mostly is, is a spectrum of difference. It really is true that no two of us are alike. It may only be in the difference in which something affects us, its intensity, or the degree to which it affects our ability to function or cope. Or it may be in the aspects that we experience that others don't and vice versa. We also have to realise that whilst autism is often described by the way that it manifests, in terms of the various traits associated with it. That doesn't mean that you have to manifest all those traits to be autistic. Nor does it mean that there is one and only one way that those traits can look. Each of us, in this, really are different. To further muddy these waters. The older we are when we begin this process, the longer we've obviously lived. In other words, the longer we have lived with what being autistic meant for us. Not by name obviously, but in terms of the ways we've learnt, as often as not the hard way, what we can and can't do, how we struggle, when we don't, our strengths and our weaknesses. And we haven't just ignored this, as much as possible we've built our lives around it. Obviously not ideally, we didn't always have the knowledge to be able to set the right boundaries, or the paths we should, or shouldn't walk down, regardless of what others wanted from us or even how we thought we should be. But still, as much as we could, we walked a path that was a reaction to what we were. That meant that over time we could learn to hide and compensate, to try and take advantage of our strengths and fear our weaknesses, adjust and compensate. In fact to continually layer the products of false awareness and understandings, of guess work and trial and error, over our behaviours, like papering over a crack, until the original could hardly be seen any more and we could at least get by. This is why it can be so difficult to realise that you are autistic and everything about it now. So much of what is described is the cause of our behaviour today, but not the behaviour itself. And seeing past that to the root of the behaviour and the way we are and that it can still be different from how others are, is the reason why it takes so long and why so much of it, is still an ongoing process. <a href="https://beige.party/tags/Autism" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#Autism</a> <a href="https://beige.party/tags/ActuallyAutistic" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#ActuallyAutistic</a>

Samantha RoseI feel like it’s a design flaw in the universe that you have to cook before having dinner.Cooking burns many spoons for me, especially days like today where it goes somewhat wrong on multiple points, so no energy left for interacting with family after cooking…Granted a large part of the problem is running close to spoon budget limit frequently. meaning there isn’t spare spoons when needed.<a href="https://beige.party/tags/ActuallyAutistic" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#ActuallyAutistic</a> <a href="https://beige.party/tags/spoonie" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#spoonie</a> <a href="https://a.gup.pe/u/actuallyautistic" class="u-url mention" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">@actuallyautistic</a>

The Autistic Innovator :Aro:'I am' and 'have' changes how we relate (and what makes grammatical sense) to our autism/neurodivergent/ADHD like:I am autistic I have autism I'm ADHD I have ADHD I am neurodivergent I have neurodivergentOr I'm AuDHD I have AuDHDWhich ones do you use the most to describe yourself?I use:I'm autistic I'm ADHD I'm neurodivergentAuDHD is harder to explain what it means so I just say "I'm autistic and ADHD"This is just a curious question to see what others use. 🙂<a href="https://autistics.life/tags/ActuallyAutistic" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#ActuallyAutistic</a> <a href="https://autistics.life/tags/ADHD" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#ADHD</a> <a href="https://autistics.life/tags/AuDHD" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#AuDHD</a> <a href="https://autistics.life/tags/neurodivergent" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#neurodivergent</a>

Sean C.<a href="https://a.gup.pe/u/actuallyautistic" class="u-url mention" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">@actuallyautistic</a> <a href="https://mastodon.social/tags/ActuallyAutistic" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#ActuallyAutistic</a> an interesting comment was made to me recently about using Facebook Groups, similar to this group, as a form of self care.i personally have significant trust issues with all things Meta since the Cambridge Analytica debacle and minimize use of their services.so i'm curious, how does everyone else feel on which is better for our community. feel free to choose as many as apply.

ManonDa ist es! Ein richtiges Buch, das man anfassen und in dem man rumblättern kann! 😍Unser Ratgeber-Buch für autistische Frauen und Mädchen. Es erscheint am 20.3. im Beltz-Verlag. <a href="https://metalhead.club/tags/actuallyautistic" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#actuallyautistic</a> <a href="https://a.gup.pe/u/actuallyautistic" class="u-url mention" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">@actuallyautistic</a>

PeterThe reactions I get from most (stable middle class, well-educated) people when I tell them about Long COVID and Autism are roughly the same:"Oh. But you must have a mild case, because you look fine. What can you do to make it better? How soon before you are 'normal' again? Here's some unsolicited (and usually disastrously ignorant) advice, that I will give you now, expecting to be praised for my compassion and cleverness."It's so fucking exhausting. 😑😮‍💨<a href="https://chaos.social/tags/LongCovid" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#LongCovid</a> <a href="https://chaos.social/tags/ActuallyAutistic" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#ActuallyAutistic</a>

Kevin DavyUpdate on my broken paw. I saw the physio today. All seems to be healing as well as can be expected and he gave me exactly what I wanted. Which was a series of exercises to help my hand. He did seem slightly mystified as to why I was still wearing the wrist brace, which, as I already knew, is not necessary and seemed somewhat confused with my explanation that it helped me to remember that the hand was injured. Further explanation that I'm not always aware of pain and that I've never met a door frame yet that I haven't eventually bumped into and that I wore it for added protection, for some strange reason, didn't seem to help. On a further note, coming up to three weeks off work means that I have almost completely lost track of what day it is. I spent all last Tuesday utterly convinced that it was Monday. As a consequence, waking up the next day to find out that it was Wednesday, meant that part of me was utterly convinced that somehow I had been robbed of a day. All I can say is, given that I spend so much time on here, which one of you bastards did it? (Although, my money is on that bloody armoured squirrel.)<a href="https://beige.party/tags/Autism" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#Autism</a> <a href="https://beige.party/tags/ActuallyAutistic" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#ActuallyAutistic</a>

The Autistic Innovator :Aro:When I was a kid, my dad sent me to dozens of learning disability specialists because he knew I was different and wanted me to have help.Out of all the 'experts,' not one said autism & ADHD. It was the 90's, autism and ADHD were only for boys. All I got was a misdiagnosis of auditory processing disorder because teachers were complaining I was too busy daydreaming and not paying attention.<a href="https://autistics.life/tags/ActuallyAutistic" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#ActuallyAutistic</a>

wurzelwhat if... neurotypicals and neurospicy people are the remnants of archaic subspecies? What would a neurospicy tribal encampment have looked like before it got swamped by the waves of migrating neurotypicals? <a href="https://autistics.life/tags/actuallyAutistic" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#actuallyAutistic</a> <a href="https://autistics.life/tags/dyslexia" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#dyslexia</a> <a href="https://autistics.life/tags/adhd" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#adhd</a>

⚡🔌ℂlaire 𝔻anielle ℂassidy♾️Finally took screenshots of a really delightful thing that's been happening in my lasercut file shop over the last month. ⚔️ My sales have skyrocketed, with zero effort on my part in any way, and literally only guillotines. Orders come in daily at escalating speed. ⚔️ I am obsessed with tracking underground movement like this.<a href="https://mstdn.social/tags/eattherich" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#eattherich</a> <a href="https://mstdn.social/tags/revolt" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#revolt</a> <a href="https://mstdn.social/tags/tgif" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#tgif</a> <a href="https://mstdn.social/tags/ActuallyAutistic" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#ActuallyAutistic</a>

AstridMaat 39? Nee, dat hebben we niet. Afwijken is onbelangrijk, tot de buitenwereld het belangrijk maakt. <a href="https://mastodon.social/tags/actuallyautistic" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#actuallyautistic</a> <a href="https://wise.astridpoot.nl/15-maat-39/" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" translate="no" target="_blank">https://wise.astridpoot.nl/15-maat-39/</a>

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